Do you have a friend who always seems to be happy? They never seem to have a down day and are always encouraging others? You may find yourself thinking, “Wow, are they lucky! Nothing ever goes wrong in their life!” Chances are they have plenty of things that “go wrong” in their life. None of us escape life without any challenges or disappointments. So, what’s the difference? They have learned to create their own happiness.
I’ve heard a great quote from Rachel Hollis, “You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.” Let that sink in, YOU decide how happy you are! So, what if you could learn to CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS? Well, you can and here are a few tips for you!
Stop comparing yourself to others! Chances are, when you are comparing your life to somebody else’s life, you don’t even have a clue what is going on in their life. Sure you see how they are presenting themselves on the outside, but you do not know what is going on internally! Those gorgeous outfits, great handbag, beautiful haircut…she may look perfect, but that is just the image she wants the world to see…remember that. Looking perfect is not the same as feeling perfect.
And let’s talk social media for a second. When you are scrolling Facebook or Instagram, you are seeing somebody’s “highlight reel”. This is not real life. It’s part of their life, being presented with the spin they want to put on it. Most people aren’t showing you their difficult days, their doubts, insecurities, etc. They are sharing their highlights! So stop comparing your every day to their best day!
Surround yourself with positivity! You are what you consume. What are you filling your mind with? Is it positive? Is it uplifting? Or are you filling your mind with negativity, drama, and things that discourage you.
I want you to think about the media that you are consuming, but also about the people you are surrounding yourself with. Jim Rohn is attributed with the quote, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” You want to be happier? Hang out with the people who make you happy! Don’t have friends who inspire you, lift your spirits, or encourage you to grow and be a better person? Then I encourage you to seek them out! Look for ways to put yourself in the proximity of people who are positive. (I invite you to join my Facebook group, Start Blooming Now, Create A Life You Love.)
Do more of what makes you happy! Sounds easy, right? It is! Take a few minutes to think of all the things you really enjoy doing! The things that make you happy, bring you joy, fill up your soul, and then do more of those things. Don’t leave them to chance either, schedule them into your week. I want you to purposefully schedule these events!
Next, I want you to figure out what things drain you, aren’t in alignment with your goals or purpose, things you are doing simply out of obligation. Start saying, “NO” to these things, delegate or outsource them when possible. By doing more of what makes you happy and less of what does not make you happy, you are immediately going to feel your happiness meter rise!
De-clutter your life – your mind, your home, your heart! When you de-clutter not only your personal living space, but the things you are consuming and the people you are spending time with that might not be the best for you, those things that drain your positivity and energy, you immediately feel lighter. When you remove things that aren’t serving you any longer, and are just creating clutter and noise in your life, you allow more room in your life for things that bring you happiness and joy.
The main thing to remember when creating your own happiness is that, YOU are in control. YOU get to decide what/whom you allow in your life. Eliminate, or decrease, the things that aren’t bringing you joy, positivity, and happiness and increase the things that are providing you joy, positivity, and happiness.