Confidence is defined as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. Plastic surgeons have long built successful careers by marketing their ability to improve your confidence by making you feel better about yourself and how you look. Not quite as drastic as plastic surgery, but would improving your skin help you feel more confident? Would clearing up your acne make you feel more confident? Would reducing fine lines, wrinkles, spots from age or accumulated sun damage make you feel more confident?
Whether you are required to stand up in front of a group of colleagues to give presentations, meet with potential or current clients, or interact with other moms at school and sporting events, we all see people in our day-to-day lives…and they see us. Many of us struggle with self confidence because we are not happy with our appearance. Truth be told, and I believe we all know this deep down, we are our own toughest critic. I’m reminded of this almost daily as I talk with my teenage children and try to remember this myself. Yet, I still find myself worrying over a newly spotted line around my eyes or the occasional blemish on my face. While others may not even notice, we think they notice, these insecurities often are responsible for decreasing our self-confidence.
In transitioning from the corporate world to building my own skincare business with Rodan + Fields, I have learned three things about myself. Yes, I am selling skincare which can help to improve our outward appearance, decrease our insecurities, and improve our self-confidence; but, quite unexpectedly, through this transition, I am learning so much more about myself. Read on.
1. I have found my passion. “Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life” – Confucius. I have heard that expression for years and can honestly say that I “get it” now. Years spent working in a field I was not passionate about has given me such an appreciation for loving every minute I dedicate to my new “job”. I must remind myself, at times, to stop “working” because I am finally and completely passionate about my new career path.
2. I enjoy mentoring others. In my corporate career I have had some amazing leaders and some that were lacking in their leadership abilities. I am thankful for the opportunity to be the leader I always wanted for myself! Being able to coach and assist others in finding their own success and confidence is even more rewarding than achieving my own success.
3. Helping others gain confidence in their lives brings me joy. It may come from assisting a customer with their skincare needs and celebrating with them when they finally see the results they were hoping for. Perhaps it’s helping a new business partner launch their business, helping them place their first customer order, or strategizing on how to implement social media into their business plan. All these successes lead to the same thing…CONFIDENCE. The happy customer who has improved the appearance of their skin may now have the confidence boost they’ve been looking for to take on something new in their life. The confidence a new business partner gains after a few initial successes may be the boost they need to propel them to greatness. As I come into contact and touch the lives of so many people with my new business, not only does this give me joy, but yes, you guessed it…my confidence is increasing as well.
I no longer look at my skincare business as simply selling somebody an eye cream. I am helping others gain confidence and that is empowering!
We’ve all heard the expression, “Kids say the darnedest things”, right?
Sometimes those things are embarrassing, sometimes hilarious, sometimes they sting (due to the truth behind them), and sometimes they really get the wheels spinning in your head.
“Mom, you don’t have any friends.”
Ouch! While said in jest by my teenage daughter a few years ago, this was one of those times where the wheels started spinning! I know she was just teasing me, but the statement was truly instrumental in me making some major life changes.
For starters, it made me take a long, hard look at my j-o-b. While my day-to-day job was fine, I enjoyed it for the most part, the company, and overall industry that I supported, was simply not one I was proud of. I looked around and noticed that I was giving much more of my energy to an employer that I didn’t enjoy or trust, spent more time with people that I was basically assigned to partner with, than my own family. I felt my priorities were out of the alignment with what I was wanting for my life.
Fast forward to leaving that employer, and the corporate world all together, and entering the world of entrepreneurism. Now I get to partner, collaborate, and surround myself with people of my own choosing and it is simply refreshing!
In the course of networking and building my business, I befriended a woman and we started chatting occasionally and meeting for coffee every few months. During one of those coffee dates, we started talking about networking, as she had recently embarked on a new business venture of her own. Each of us were looking for ways to increase our reach, meet more people, make new friends.
A few coffee dates later, an idea was born to start a local women’s group! At first, we were focusing on networking. That made sense for two new entrepreneurs, right? But in one of our brainstorming sessions, the question arose, “What would make you want to go out in the evening, say after a long day of work?” For me the answer was quite simple, and it wasn’t to attend yet another formal networking group. It was simply to meet new people and form new friendships. (Remember, “Mom, you don’t have any friends” was lingering in the back of my brain!)
I think as grown women, it is sometimes difficult to make new friends. As a military spouse, I’ve been forced to figure it out, otherwise I would have led a very lonely adult life. But for many women, they simply go to work, take care of their family, and that’s it. They may be friends with neighbors and other moms from their children’s various sport teams, but again, those “friendships” may feel forced, the same way work colleagues often feel. The connections are made for you and are not necessarily of your choosing.
So, we sat down and drafted a mission statement: We are a fun and caring community of local women coming together to develop friendships, share ideas, support, encourage, and network. We decided on a name, had a friend design a logo, threw up a Facebook page, and started planning events. BOOM, it truly was that simple, Chick Clique was born!
If you are in any type of relationship driven business, expanding your reach and making new connections is essential. For me, I’m not simply looking to meet people to give my “pitch” to. I’m looking to make real connections with people, get to know them, listen to their needs, their frustrations, their dreams, etc. If I can help by offering one of my services or products to them, that is great. If not, that is fine too. My hope is that I’ve developed a new friendship, or in the very least, been a resource to them, instrumental in them meeting new people and developing their own new friendships, uplifting and encouraging them along the way.
So, the next time your child says something to you that strikes a nerve, sit with it for a while. Ponder whether that message was sent to you for a reason. I know my life has been enriched in the few short months since starting this local women’s social group. The “icing on the cake” for me is when other women thank me for starting this group, organizing our events, etc. I’ve realized that I was not the only woman craving a community of fun and caring women looking to develop friendships, share ideas, support and encourage each other.
To learn more about our group and upcoming events, visit our Facebook page here. To learn more about the author and to follow her blog, visit bloomwithbec.com.